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Do yall feel guilty sometimes? I do alot lately, I must be in a flare but I just cant do anything right now...I feel like I let my kids and my husband down alot cause I usually pass on the activities when im down.... This sucks!
Linda

I always feel guilty for the things i cannot/dont feel like doing. I just can't seem to shake that even though hubby and boys tell me not to worry.

Yes I always feel badly especially when I 'ruin' other people fun times. I don't like being left out but I really hate it when people change their plans because of me.

I'm 'learning' to rent a wheel chair.

Yes; I feel that way a lot myself. I work full time and there are days/weeks/months when by the time I get home all I can do is lay down and rest.

I often feel like if I didn't spend the majority of my spoons weren't spent at work there might be more left over for my family. I have to just get over that at times though because I need my salary. My children might not understand that now.....but hopefully one day they'll understand that.

Thankfully my husband is real understanding and encourages me to rest when I get home and he never makes me feel bad or guilty. Sadly it's just a feeling I take on all on my own.

It comes and goes. It's not always that bad....but when I'm in a flare; it's far worse that's for sure.

Hang in there Linda.

Hi, you do the best you can, we are who we are. This stuff alters a lot of things about us, but ya know waht we do the best we can.SarahI sometimes feel guilty when my husband comes home from work after working his butt off putting windows in vehicles and the house is a mess and he starts right in (he doesn't complain) and starts doing dishes or laundry and I am laying on the couch and I don't want to talk or watch tv. I just want to be left alone until my pain meds kick in. Yeap, I feel guilty. But he knows I can't help it and it's not my fault.....can't help but feel guilty. every minute of every day.

Especially when I have to take a pain pill. It KILLS me. *sighhs*
I never feel guilty.  Maybe there was a time I might have.  But for me, I guess I got to a point in my life where I just knew that I had to do what was right for me...and sorry...I won't ever feel bad or guilty about it.  This goes beyond having RA.  It has to do with everything in my life.  It's my life and I live it the way I want.  I used to be a people pleaser.  Not anymore though...and it's much easier to live this way.

All the time Jojo.  It has really helped me getting an aide.  She keeps the house up so I can do finishing touches and play in the yard.  I do not like asking people for help and I feel really guilty on my "couch days".

Also Marian, going places.  This afternoon we are supposed to go to a barbecue that Kelsey is excited about.  I don't feel up to it but I might go because I would feel guilty dissapointing her.

roxy39235.4566087963 There are still times I feel guilty about not being able to do stuff with my girls.  I try to make up for it when I am having good days.  I also try to do things with the girls at home even on bad days.  We will play cards on the coffee table, watch a chick flick together, etc.  I guess maybe I do rainy day activities on the days I am not doing so well. 
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