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I am in a huge amount of emotional and physical pain.  I would like your prayers.  My daughter is very ill.  She is on the way to the hospital.  I don't want her institutionalized.  I am hoping they can stabilize her.  Please pray for her.  She needs to be home where she is loved.  My thoughts and prayers are with you Roxy! roxy,all my prayers are being sent your way.It is good that she is getting medical help.Stay calm and try to relax as you need your strength to support her now,god bless.Love and hugs sweetie. Keeping you both in my prayers.

Roxy, I am so very sorry she is so ill. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

Please keep us posted.

Much love,

Nini

Did you not go with her?

I'll keep her in my prayers.

Roxy, you and Kelsey have been in my prayers for some time now and will continue to be until a resolution has been reached.  This is so sad and I am sure that all of us Mother's can relate.  Try to stay strong Roxy, because as you already know, it you get sick you won't be there for Kelsey.
Please keep us posted because we do care.

Sending love and hugs to you both.

Roxy- Kelsey needs to be where she is going to get the help she needs, I know its emotionally hard for you and she knows she has lots of love at home waiting for her when she is better. Take care, you are both in my thoughts

Lovie,  Brett took her to hospital.  She is really angry with me and I am exhausted and in pain.  They told us it would be hours waiting and I have gotten very little sleep taking care of her.  I am so grateful to Brett for doing this for me.  He can handle her better when I am ill and she is so upset and angry she is going to likely be admitted.

Thank you all for your prayers.  She was doing so good.  I want her back - stable.  I know I cannot handle her like this but she was doing so well..............

Roxy~What have you heard from the hospital? How's Kelsey doing.....I'm concerned about her this evening. How are you holding up?I am so sorry that you have to take this step. But you know it has to be done. Don't feel guilty about and do let Brett help you with this. Then get some rest. You cannot do any more for her for the moment. Rest up in the meantime and when the opportunity comes to help her again, you will be ready. If you don't, you will still be too exhausted and upset to truly help her.

At this point, she needs care from others. You have to let her go.
Sorry Roxy. So sorry, Roxy...my prayers are with u and KelseyTake care Roxy, make the most of this opportunity to rest up and take care of yourself.  My prayers are with you both. May our lord and His blessed mother be with you both at this time..take care                 gentle hugs

rose

Roxie dear,

Put Kelsey right now in God's hands.

He loves her even more than you do and will make sure that all things work for good for her.

Then, sit back and let God. Trust him to do what's best and accept what happens as His will.

Pray for her and yourself and concentrate on getting yoursef together. That's all you can do now.

We're all praying for you too.

Kathy

 

 

 

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Roxy, I know how hard this is for you. Believe me, I know. They can treat her at the hospital. They can deal with her. When she is a little better and the demons in her head are quiet again, she'll come home, and then she'll need you to help her pick up the pieces. Give yourself some time to rest, to be quiet, and to heal yourself! Then you'll both be better able to pick up the pieces and start over. So sorry to hear this Roxy.  Nothing is as painful as seeing one of your children hurting.

God Bless,
Mary B
I will write more tomorrow.  She is in a respite care facility.  She held it together for awhile and blamed everything on me, saying our relationship is why she was not doing well.  They told me maybe she just needed time away from me Roxy you are not responsible for Kelsey's illness. Mental illness is a disease just like rheumatoid arthritis and every other disease there is.   Mothers are always to blame for whatever happens to their children according to society and often the children themselves. Hopefully as she gets stabilised and also when she gets a little older she will realise she is taking her frustrations with life out on the person she trusts the most - her mother.
Glad Brett is helping, make sure you get lots of rest.
Having RA is a nightmare let alone having to take the responsibility for your daughter being ill - it is not your fault.   Take care and get lots of rest.
Hugs CassieRoxy, I cant beleive what your family has been through. You are just going to have to let God take care of this. She is much too difficult for you to take care of on your own. I hope you are getting some rest.

I think God saw what needed to be done and took the decision away from you, Roxy, because you were too close and couldn't do it.  Kelsey needed to go back and be treated.  Thank God for Brett.  The situation has been out of control for too long now. 

And none of it is "your fault."  Of course Kelsey wants to blame you, you are family and available and she is sick and of course that is what she is going to say.  The truth is, while she might have done well for awhile, her mental illness is severe enough that the notion of her living at home was an experiment at best...even if you weren't seeing it that way.  Maybe she can come home again, maybe not, but at least you can feel good about having given it a try and now you know, if she ends up not coming back, that there is a reason she must stay in a facility.

I pray you use this time with Brett to heal old wounds, make some decisions and let Kelsey be.  She is being taken care of and right now you have enough on your plate at home.

Jeanne
Hugs, hugs and more hugs. I am giving it up to God.  I would like Kelsey back if she is stable.  She tried to slap me 3x the day before when I told her I thought she needed to go.  She only hit my arms as I put them in front of my face.  Brett was not here.   I realized then that if Brett were not here this week, which God made happen as I have not needed him until now.   Kelsey has been stable since Brett has been gone.  It was not a coincidence that Brett was here when she needed to go.  I don't know how I would have been able to stay at that hospital all that time, as sick and upset as I was.  Easy to think I am a bad mom as I was not at her side but I only aggitated her, she is angry, she blames me.   Kelsey is a good girl.  We usually get along well.  She just got so sick.  I made myself sick crying yesterday.  I could not eat and my stomach is such a mess.  I know many of you do not think I should take her back but I will, considering the alternatives, IF she can be here and not be abusive.  We need each other.  I miss her when she is gone but right now, I am going to use this time to heal.  Kelsey has humor and knows me so well and what I have been through.  Same with me toward her.  We love each other.  She is just not well right now.  I am not well right now.  I would let her go if she had better alternatives.  I am praying a lot.  It is in God's hands.  Please, when you vote, understand, our society is cruel to the mentally ill.  It is not their fault.My prayers are with you. I hope whatever the outcome it is the right one for you.

Linda

My Dear Roxy, I hope you can draw strength from those of us who are with you in spirit.

I pray that God will give you peace and help you deal with whatever happens. I also pray that God gives Kelsey peace and eases the turmoil within her.

Much love & hugs,

Nini

Roxy,

I'm so sorry to hear about Kelsey. You're NOT a bad Mother. You did what was right for Kelsey. She needs to be in a place where she can get help. I keep you and Kelsey in my prayers and pray that both of you will be guided through all of this and gain peace and strenght from this.

Just stopping in to check on you and Kelsey.  Any news from the hospital today?  As for the guilt monkey....you need to kick that monkey off a cliff Roxy.  It's the mother in you wanting to make everything okay for your child and feeling helpless because you can't.  There are things in our control and things that are not...Kelsey's illness is not in your control so somehow you have to find a way to let go of the guilt.  In the end my friend, the guilt will do you both more harm than good.  Things are as they should be right now.  You need to be at home resting and getting well and Kelsey does need to be at the hospital with professionals getting well.  I think you two were doing great until everyone started getting sick around the house and then life just turned upside down for everyone.  You saw this coming when she couldn't keep the meds down.  It's no one's fault, it just happens.  Everything will be okay Roxy...take deep breaths and take care of you.  Once you've taken care of you and restored balance in your life and Kelsey is back on her medications and back in balance....she will come home again.  You're both in my thoughts sweetie...hang in there & be strong.  I know you're going through a very difficult time.

Peace & Love...Neasy

I went to the pcp today.  She offered to raise my oycodin to 40 mg from 20.  I talked her into 30.  I don't want to be a walking zombie.  We were at doctors for three hours.  I felt very ill after that long wait.  Kelsey has not called all day or social services.  It is her perogative - she is an adult.  I am praying about that guilt monkey.  He is an evil, persistent thing but I know he is no good for anyone.  Working and praying hard on that.  Brett and I have had a very mellow day as I have been taking it easy.  We do not need to address our relationship now, I am just glad to have a friend.  I want my health back for no matter what life brings.  Thank you all.  I am trusting what is meant to be will happen.
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