...to be mean to some people? I really would love an answer because I am curious about what that could possibly do for you?
You pretty much scared me off this board about a month ago when I just happened to read your very nasty sounding comments to some poster stating that they must not really be sick if they were posting at some certain time of day or night that you seemed to be deeming as being indicative of them not really being sick.
It really did upset me (and I would think would upset others who would be new here as well) and that someone on a support board for a chronic illness of all places would say such a thing to another and so without bothering to name names I presented my feedback.
And then tonight I run across some post of yours making another negative and nasty sounding comment - this time about people who utilize the phrase "my 2 cents" which happens to be exactly how I signed off on my opinion in that earlier post about your mean seeming behavior towards another poster, which makes it seem to me like you are now targeting me personally as someone to bully.
It's really sad too because I've wanted to be back around here in spite of some of that nastiness and negativity I was witnessing because I really need the good advice, information and support here and had decided that the good here certainly outweighed any bad - but now I am not so sure.
Welcome back Melly!Melly,
It sounds like you might be a little to "thinned skinned" to be on a board, much less this board. You are reading entirely too much into things.
As you were told the LAST time you brought up this issue about posting on this board all hours of the day and night, it was directed to ONE person and ONE person only. You have been told that on more than one occasion, get over it. Secondly, I have no idea what post you are talking about with the .02,....so get over it too. I'm sorry, but if you think that I'm that interested in your life to copy your sign off, you are sadly mistaken. You are 42 years old, grow up and act like it. We aren't teenagers here.
You sound a lot like Roxy, very paranoid and insecure. Not everyone here is out to get you, including me. However, it pisses me off when you come on this board making unsubstaniated claims. But, everyone has a right to their opinion. I do wish that you would get your facts straight before blasting me. There are great people, lots of fun and great information. If you are here to start trouble (which that is what it seems like), then move on.
Phats
PS, don't worry about all the new people that are being "run" off. There are lots of new people here. We have new people joining everyday. I would worry more about myself, if I were you.
*edited after reading some of your previous posts*
Think,
Your post isn't worth replying too.
Phats
A big problem on this board is there are members that if they do not agree with your opinons they immediately label you as being a "mean" person and evil. this is not the case, they do not even know you. They are meaner in their posts judging you and calling you names all because they are of different opinons. Who are they to judge and call names??
The big excuse is that the people who have different opinions are just jealous and want attention, I think you need to look at the number of posts these people have made and you will see they are few, and no they are not trolls, they just feel they finally have something to offer and are brave enough to voice their opinions.
So bottom line, if you have a different opinion, you are labeled a troll or mean, and I think if you look at these posts my the "nice"people you will see they are not so nice to the "mean" people.
So if all you want to do on this board is support someone no matter how detrimental their behavior is and give sympathy, then so be it, not everyone wants to do that nor can they live with themselves by condoning the behavior that may be hurting someone else. In this Case Roxy's daughter is in danger, thank goodness Brett was there to take her to the hospital, because Roxy was going to give it another week. What kind of shape would she have been in by then??
So some of us try to help and give our suggestions even if they are not popular instead of just saying "Poor Roxy". So we are the "mean" people.
The way I see it is this: When you are on a public forum you can say whatever you want, especially if it is not monitored. I think that people here just say how they feel because nobody can see them. I for one say things here that I would normally not say to a person face to face.
Sometimes a person can only do so much hand holding. re:Roxy.
Sorry, I am rambling.
I just want to point out I have had nothing to do with this thread. But I will add my two cents (what a surprise) and say that if there was any place in this world where I could find support, love, encouragement, no negativity towards fellow posters, good information about our disease process, and a place to rant about the absurdities of the American health care system, I wish it was this board. But then, I used to wear rose-colored glasses. Then I was diagnosed, and threw them away.
I have a chronic, debilitating, progressive disease that changes moment to moment and so do most of us in here. With no cure in sight and the pallative treatments offered by medicine all have such high probabilities for causing side effects that can kill you is not an encouraging position to try to fight the good fight from. I wish the best for everyone in here, and treasure every poster who offers something of value, even if its the fact that they are crazy.
Melly; I'm glad you changed your mind and decided to give AI another try.
I would however like to suggest that you don't jump right in bring up old problems. "By Gones". There's no reason to come back here and start out right away bringing up something that happened in the past. What's the purpose in that? Are you trying to pick a fight? If that's the case I'm sure you're going to find one with threads like these.
Some people enjoy that. Are you one of them? It would seem so by your post.
Lovie,
That is exactly what I was trying to say. It seems that Melly is trying to start something. I hope not and that she will find what she is looking for on this board.
There is a lot of information and great people on this board. Hopefully Melly will find what she is looking for.
Phats
So what if she's wanting to start something...it's no worse than what I've seen in some of your posts, Phatgirl.Kelstev,
Your statement is very true. However, I have been trying really hard (and have been successful) to be on my best behavior. I have not said anything cross to anyone (including Roxy) in quite some time.
melly can start whatever she wants, I just hope she is ready for what she is going to get. The board was quite peaceful and it just seems that she is trying to start unnecessary trouble.
Phats
Dont worry about it Phats they are trying to push your buttons.
And I have noticed Phats that you've been making every effort to be more careful about what you say. Don't think it's not been recognized because it has.
Thank you Lovie! I really appreciate it.
PhatsPhats, you know that I'm a fan You say it like it is. Ignore these others who are just trying to aggrevate.
Now and Then, I'm sorry if you were offended. However, that wasn't a remark made to my husband (I'm not married) and it was not an ethenic remark. I DO NOT make ethenic remarks, EVER. It IS NOT the same as calling someone the "N" word. The term white trash here, in my neck of the woods is more like a comment on behavior. That comment was based solely on behavior that person *supposedly* displayed. I would not have known the person was white, except that I have seen a picture of him. I really think you might have a different definition of white trash. I, myself am white. As I stated, I am NOT racist and would never make a racist statement. I hope that clarifies. If you want to discuss it more, I'd be happy to elaborate on my stance. Thanks, Phats *edited by me, because I didn't make sense* SOD and everyone else: Thanks for the support. I do, in fact, say what I mean and mean what I say. Sometimes I can be a little rough around the edges and I'm working on that. But, I take no prisoners when I'm wrongly attacked. Anyhoo, if anyone ever wants a straightforward, honest answer, you know who to come to
Phats Blessed, Are you trying to start something again? This is not a sorority. Mel is welcome, just the same as everyone else. Please, don't stir the pot. Those comments are unnecessary and counterproductive. Phats Blessed, Sorry, but Mel put herself out there by starting this unnecessary thread. Her "complaints" had been addressed on MANY occasions before. As Lovie said, let bygones be bygones and move on. Phats I suppose Mel agrees with you Blessed. She hasn't been back. I didn't plan to run her off; but I still stand by my statement. If threads like this one is all she has to contribute.....Tootles! There is a group here. You're right. For anyone that's interested it's a group of people that come here on a regular basis. Sometimes we agree....sometimes we don't. One day I might agree with one person.....and another day I might not. Doesn't mean we can't continue to get along and be a part of the same "Group". Even if things are said that get peoples feather's ruffled.....it doesn't have to mean things have to turn completely bad. Anyone that wants to be part this group come here anyday and start a new. Anything you might have taken offense to in the past.....Let is go. Move on. You don't have to come back looking for opprotunities to take stabs at someone that might have rubbed you the wrong way in the past. That's where the trouble ALWAYS comes from. It's weird to me that the people that refer to the "Groups" or "Clicks" are always comments from people that for whatever reason feel as if they aren't part of it. It's just not like that. I'm real sorry if anyone feels left out. That sounds a little like a personal problem to me. They only "group" I am in is the wanna have fun "group".
I say join the "click" or "group" you are referring to and just make yourself at home. Do not be afraid to post or reply. Like Lovie she post and replies to everyones posts. Me I only post when I feel I am contributing, or giving encouragement. I am not much on the adivce giving, because lets face it... I am in a "group" totally different then most on here, it is called the JRA group. And most times, my advice would sound harsh and mean. I know I have tried before to give advise, and people thought I was being mean and cruel and harsh. Anywho.... Just join in and make a splash. DO not worry about what other people, just speak up and do your thing. That is how to be part of this so called group or click. Just do it! Ahhh... I may not agree with everything and how Phat says stuff, but she seems to me to be one that does not sugar coat anything, and tells it like she sees it. I admire her for that. I mean someone no this board has to say it like it is... and I vote it be someone like PhatGirl who can take what is delt. Also, I was surpirsed to see someone "picking" on PhatGirl again, because she was behaving and being a sweety. And I think she is handling this thread fairly nice, I mean should could have went for the jugular and made a mess, but she did not. I am proud of PhatGirl, and hope others will see her like so many of us on here see her. Which is someone who tells it like it is and is not a mean, cruel, hateful person. Sure she's got attitude, but who on this board does not have attitude? I know I have been told I have attitude, which to me I do not think I do. Awww Joonie
Okay Blessed, dont be talking about my girl Lovie now. She is one of the most supportive people on here. She trys hard to keep all this bull crap down. Melly did come on here taking a jab at Phats...so what did you expect would happen????? If you are a newbie just coming in you've got to roll with the punches sometimes. We were newbies once too and we've stuck around. If backing Phats is clickish so be it. I know when someone is stirring the pot and someone is who is just sticking up for someone who speaks their mind and truly didnt deserve all of this bull. .....We've got fun and games...... *sings and dances* Sorry, it was all I could think of when I read that!
HAHAHAHA!! THAT'S AWESOME!! I honestly would have *never* thought of that!! High five for you!
I imagine "Melly" can speak for herself if she feels the need.....other wise I say let it go. Meme~Good to see ya Girlie. Hope you're doing well. Don't worry about any of this. It just makes it feel like home. Never last long and often it becomes constructive.
Peace. I agree, this kind of thread should be a pm by melly if she has something to say to Phats, not a public argument. Phats, ignore her and don't let her get to you.
You seem like a very intelligent woman, so try to live up to that image.
Mel, maybe you just don't meet the sorority's criteria?
I don't think any of comments in this thread are necessary or counterproductive.
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