someone i know has just died, and its someone i should have got on well with. sadly, they were a victim of jealously and always seemed to want what I had.... im not a wealthy, pretty, or particularly intelligent person (and, for goodness sake, I have a chronic illness) but im happy with who i am ... so i could never figure out where that jealousy came from.
now they're dead, i just think its so sad that it was jealously that kept our "friendship" poles apart, and the opportunity to heal that gap has gone forever.
i think jealously is definitly the worst emotion of all.
anna
Sorry for the loss of your friend, Anna. I kind of went through the same thing (she didn't die..just the friendship died) and we are now trying to fix the friendship. It's not the same anymore, but we're working on it...so I guess that's the main thing. Your post just made me feel better about working on this friendship. So thank you.
That is so sad yes, jealousy is so evil. I have family members that wont come around due to being jealous of me. I have 2 kids in college and live a decent life never got into trouble, dont do street drugs, take good care of my family, have a decent paying job etc. I just dont choose to live the same way they do. They love to see someone as miserable as they are. I really miss all the good times we had but now it's just a little "hello" if I see them at the grocery or at a family gathering "if" I get invited to them. It can be lonely too.
Sorry to hear about your friendI am so sorry to hear about your friend... I live a very comfortable life, a job I love and three wonderful kids. I have always been cautious with people because I have been hurt so bad in the past by jealous friends (which I know now were never really truly my friends). I think that your post is so important because it should help us to value what we have, lose what it is not good for us and mend fences where needed before it is to late. Big hugs to you!!!I think that jealousy goes right along with low self esteem and yes it is sad. People like that have my sympathy. Just forgive them and move on because they really have to help themselves first.
hi nowandthen
do you know what I think is strange in all of this.... the person seemed to have high self-esteem, always looked well presented, spoke well, etc, never got into arguments or raised her voice or anything like that, but she did suffer really badly from what i can only describe as "keeping up with the joneses"..... you know always had to have the best car in the street, the cleanest windows in the street, that sort of thing, to quite a bad degree.
.... moving on... yes ... "grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change..."
anna
That's the thing, though, with greed and jealousy. They are never satisfied. Their is always someone that has what you don't, whether money, looks, talent, intelligence. Or maybe even just personality traits like kindness or a sense of humor. I used to have a "friend" that could never be happy if something good happened to me. She always had to talk down about it. It hurt, because you expect your friends to want good things for you and to be happy when they happen. It's too bad your friend lived and then died an unhappy person. What a waste.hi lin
isn't it a shame we can't take these people and just give them a good shake!!! but i agree with nowandthen, there's nothing we can do about it, just have to feel sorry for them and move on... I wonder if my friend had survived, if the brush with death would have changed her, but that's just silly thinking.
anna
I don't think it's silly to be thinking about that. Maybe in the sense that it's a question that can't be answered, but not in the sense that your'e wondering about it. And I agree with now&then too. It's something that's in a person, and who can change that but God? It's just hard to imagine going through your life never really being happy for the good things you have, cuz everyone has things to be thankful for whether they recognize that or they don't, ya know?
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