What a last couple a days! I tell ya I'm just hanging by a thread and it's unraveling. After all I've been through with hurting, then falling, the neighbor ignoring me, hurting worse because of fall etc...
I get a call from dear son who is almost 22 years old " whatcha doin mom"? "I just took a pain pill, why"? "cause I want to come home but I've been drinking too much"."Will you and daddy come get me, I'm at a bar and have no DD" (designated driver).GGGRRRRR! We told him if he was ever caught in a situation like that he could call us, but boy was this bad timing. WE hate drinking! He knows this but drinks any way. But he is an adult, works full time, has his own vehicle and money. What are my options?
Don't even go into "tough Love" or kicking him out because that is not an option.
So I wake up dh and we go get him. Would you all have done anything differently?
No, I would have gotten him, because then you know he is home safe. However tomorrow morning when you get up I would make lovely noises and very loudly in the house. I think I would make this hang-over last in his mind.
Love ya Mona and take care of yourself! Thanks Michell, you're a dear person. Don't worry this is one hangover he'll never forget
I sent you a PM your box is full Thanks Mona, that should be fixed. I was sooooo hoping that you would get some good sleep. I'm tellin' ya I would make it the most horrible thing in the world. How are the injuries from this am. I still can't believe your neighbor. I live next to two elderly folk and they are both sick now. One was just dx with RA. We definitely watch out for eachother. If I am not out watering my roses Shirley is asking my kids if I am ok. Don't understand the lack of love this day and age.
I would have gone and gotten him and the next morning done exactly what Michelle said lol. I have actually gotten out of a speeding ticket many many years ago (my girls were still in car seats moons ago lol) getting my husband from a bar one night when his DD decided to drink. I would have done the same thing. But I would have dropped him off at my sister's house, as my oldest niece all she knows how to do is slam doors and cupboards, and there is no sleeping when she is awake. She will bang pots and pans. It gets on my oldest brothers nerves when he has been out drinking and comes home, he lives with my sister, and our niece is banging stuff around
Oh we have no taxi's were we live, not even in the closest town. So taxi's would be out of the question for around here. No taxi or bus service here either and only one bar.
Nice he was apologetic and thankful though. Even though you're miserable....
Jay Well, I guess I am going to be the oddball, but I would have been very proud of him. He did the right thing by calling and asking for a ride. What's the big deal. He's not underage, and it's not like he's doing it all the time. I would greet him warmly and thank him for calling me. Treating him poorly would just make him hesitant to call again in the future if he needed you. My approach to family is we are all in this together and we help each other out, whenever and whereever it's needed. Sometimes the timing is inconvenient, but so what. Next time it might be me who needs someone to help me out in the middle of the night. Your right Hillhoney and we did let it be known he was very mature in calling us, and made sure he was to be comfortable in doing it again. Our problem was that his dd had all ready brought him home from a festival a couple towns over, where he was drinking. He then got into his truck and left, drinking, driving with no dd and drank more at the bar. I know this because I saw him pull out of the drive and call his cell phone and knew immediately he had been drinking. I told him to turn around and come back but he didn't. Thats what dh and I were most upset about. He was just very lucky this time. I think what you did was absolutely the best thing! I have always told my boys if they are out drinking they can call us (hubby or me) and no matter what we will come pick them up, no questions asked and we will NOT get mad, no matter what. So far it hasnt happened, but they are young. We frequently talk to them about going to friend's b-day parties and how easily it can turn to drinking games, etc. On the other hand, I've told them if they get arrested, especially for DUI, a jail cell is a safer place (than mom at home) and no, I will not go bail them out. Hi, Aren't cell phones amazing. My son wrecked his truck twice, and I keep wondering if he'd had a cell, this was years ago, he could have called us from anywhere and we would have come to get him....(that is if we weren't wasted ourselves, it took us years to stop drinking, but it was well worth it!!)oh well. Loving kids , even when they become adults, is a big job. I'm glad he's okay, but I see your point that you can't keep doing 'this'!! Lynda P/s. I heard alcohol contributes to RA? has anyone else heard this? Ok this reminds me of something that happened a month or so ago. It was like 10 o'clock at night the phone rang, I though it was MIL. So I answer it and it is some dude on the other end. He sounded drunk. He says "Hi is Chris there?" I said "Yes, who is this?" He says "Paul." I said "Paul? Paul who?" He says "Paul Wilson." I said "Oh... oooookk." Then I yelled at hubby to tell him Paul was on the phone. Hubby says "Paul? Who is Paul?" I shrugged my shoulders. Hubby told me to ask what he wanted. I said "Paul? Chris wants to know what you want." Then dude says "I need him to come bail me outta jail." I relayed the message to hubby and hubby said "I do not know any Paul Wilson... hang up... I am not bailing someone I do not know out of jail." So... I said to Paul. "Sorry, Paul, but it seems you have called the wrong Chris." and hung up on him. There are like 2 other Chris's with hubby's last name in the phone book, so I guess the dude just picked one that sounded like where his friend lived and got us. So... dude was probably stuck in jail, because he used his 1 phone call to call the wrong Chris
Pretty funny if you ask me.
just one? why did both of you go?.. I'm not married, so i guess i don't always get this pair thing, lol :) it does sound like you have a loving family and your son is lucky to have you :) Thanks Ladies, glad to know my son isn't the only one with sh** for brains sometimes.
Whispered, we both went to get him so hubby could drive his truck home, didn't want to leave it at the bar. I guess every mothers fear is that dreaded phone call ,"your child has been in an accident". I know I don't sleep until I hear him come in. Now I know why my daddy would be sitting on the front porch when me and my sister or a date would come home. He would just say he wasn't sleepy, we'd sit on the porch and talk awhile and then he'd go to bed.. He never said he was worried bout us but now I know. Makes me want to cry thinking of my dad. He was the greatest
they drive you home in your own car.
But I guess if neither was an option you did the right thing.
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