Single, Female 41 years old | Arthritis Information

Hi everyone,

I haven't been on this site for a very long time. I'm reaching out to those dynamic single women out there who are still single, and living with the arthritis disease or any other diseases.

Do you know of any dating sites that are disability friendly, that are safe and reputable?

Look forward to your replies :)

delnorth39301.6531944444Hi del, I have seen it mentioned on here and I am sure that someone will come forward to help you. Good Luck!

Thanks, Now & Then.

I find it hard to date people that don't understand my situation, or are not sensitive to what I'm going through. Its a scary :(

I appreciate your prompt reply :) Hope you have a fantastic day!!!

Well, I don't know of any disability friendly ones and I'm in AU but I am single and I just use the regular dating sites, especially the free ones.

I get lot of responses to my profile and simply tell them about my RA fairly early on in the process. I even went on a date last Sat night in a high amount of pain so I just told him, he already knew about the RA before then.

My philosophy is that the right person for you will understand your situation regardless. And we all have 'stuff', mine just happens to be RA, theirs will be something else but it is still 'stuff'.

I have had now five dates in the last month, alright for someone in a flare. Hello, I was reading a news magazine last week and it actually had websites for people with disabilities to meet someone. I think it was newsweek, but I will ask my husband. I know people are leery about meeting someone online, but for the record my husband and I have been married for 11 years and we met online. I will post again once I figure it out. Thanks everyone, I appreciate your comments :)

Hi Delnorth...welcome!

I met my second husband online when I was 38. I didn't worry too much about telling him that I had RA. I told him shortly after we met and it didn't scare him off. In fact, 8 and 1/2 months later, we went to Las Vegas and got married

Try not to worry too much about having RA while dating...just get out there and have fun!

Good Luck,

Kelly

Delnorth,

Thank you for asking the question. I don't think I would have thought to ask that question here on this forum. Great input from everyone! I have PA and when I look at somepeople's sights and they like to camp, I get worried, as it hurts my heart to think about packing up, unpacking, packing up and unpacking again just to leave for 2 days. I just have quit so many of the things I loved to do because I hurt so bac and am so exhausted when I am done, then I have to go to work. I am still on NSAIDS, and scared to move to the next level of drugs, but maybe now I should open my mind. I am 46 and waiting for a divorce, which seems to be the next issue I fight within me, but some days it seems like I am 60'ish!

try lovebyrd.com

good luck

phats

Letta, Hi sweetie! My family likes to camp and like you, the thought of packing, unpacking, sleeping in a tent, etc. is not something I can or want to do. Know what? It's ok. My hubby wouldn't allow me to lift a finger even if I wanted to. He calls me his princess and when we camp, first thing he does is get me a princess chair to sit in and supervise. I can no longer sleep on the ground so I use an inflatable mattress.

When the right person comes along, it won't matter that you are unable to carry, lift, etc. I understand about quitting things you love. One of my favorite things to do with hubby and boys was to play rollerblade basketball, a game I made up when they were in toddler-type rollerskates. We played that and hockey for years and years, and now I am only able to watch. Now I make cards and scrapbook when I feel up to it. I have 3 dogs we have rescued and also a newborn kitten, they give so much comfort and unconditional love. I try hard to look for new things I CAN do rather than dwell on what I cannot, because that is so dang depressing.

I went through a divorce, so I understand how stressful that can be. Take care and pamper yourself when possible. Hugs!

Deb

Thanks for your advice Deb.