Yeah I said it! Ok... so my oldest niece has been over to go swimming the last couple of days. And when my niece is around, my hubby has like an extra kick in his step.
Ok soo... she was over and usually when hubby comes home from work, he lays on the couch and falls asleep as soon as he hits the couch, like he is doing right now... and my niece is not here.
So, the first day, my niece cleans my house for me and enlists hubby to help. Yeah... he helped her to clean the house, when I have to beg him to help me. He stood there and watched her wash dishes! Yeah... he stood in the kitchen and watched her wash dishes!
He did not even fall asleep once while she was here, I guess she is his "crack addicition". He gets really hyper when she is around and shows out. I am use to it, but man... enough is enough!
So, he is now laying on the couch asleep and gets upset when someone messes with him. Yeah... but let my niece mess with him he thinks it is funny.
Oh well... just needed to vent and to say my hubby is a preverted jackass!That is a man for Yah. They just can't help it.They can help it, they just won't.Aw, Joonie, that would sure make you feel good, NOT.
I am not so sure they can help it.
Even my 2 year old boy cousin watchs a belly dance like he is in a trance, whereas Santa makes him cry. And my 87 year old Uncle still loves the girls, and even the nursing home aids Love my Unk right back.
Oh, he has already pissed me off since I made this post.
I told him I needed to go pick up my antibiotic, and he got all pissy with me, because I woke him up to tell him this.
He said what was that I got you yesterday?
I already explained this crap to him, like 2 times already, but he says I did not. I know I did when I was sitting in the waiting room to be picked up, I called him and told him I had another bladder infection and they were culturing my pee and were going to call in my antibiotic and that they gave me a RX for my IC.
He makes me soo angry, I just want to kick him in the nutz, and pull out every nose hair in his nose!
Now, he has fallen back to sleep on the couch. Stoopid ass needs to learn how to go to bed at night. Not, my fault he only got 2-3 hours sleep. I was asleep way before midnight last night.
I just want to rip his ears off his head and make a stew with them and feed it to him for din-din.
Can I have his cell #? I need to warn him to sleep lightly because his wife is about to kick his A--.
We are not all like that.
Nevermind yes we are!
Like what? Mean to their wives? Not caring that your not only hurting her feelings but also humiliating her? Nice.I agree that secretly 99.9 percent of men are thinking about the "S" word, especially if they see someone they find attractive. They just can't help it, it's the way they're wired. They CAN, however, control how they react to the opposite sex and that's where you dear hubby falls way short. If it were me, I'd probably kick him to the curb, but I don't know your situation and I'd never suggest you do that. All we can do is be here for you to listen to you vent. Please do, any time you want, but try not to feel too badly. None of us have perfect lives, and we do the best we can with what we've got.Ladies,
If I offended anyone (linncn) I'm sorry I was only making light of it.
Joonie,
I hope he treats you better than it sound like he does.
Jay,Hello, I am new here and hopefully you will not mind if I state my opinion.
My second husband was obsessed with Playboy magazine and was always delighted to have his teen daughter's friends over...it was really sick, especially when his daughter told me that it was freeking her and her friends out. HE is on his way to 50 so the Playboy magazine is like lurking at teenagers for him. I could not stand it anymore, so with that along with several other things I left........we can all passively attribute it to being a "man thing" but for me, it was irritating and quite unrespectful.
I would knock his ears off and pull his eyelids down over his nose and ask him why he would do such a teen attitude thing!!!!!!!
Just my input...good luck, I would be really upset too...maybe you should do him the same favor with a man/young man the age of your niece and ask him..."""well, how do ya like them apples??""""
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Ok, I guess I was offended, although I did know you weren't serious. My dad was always cheating on my mom and my sister's husband does the kind of thing Joonie's did, and it just isn't cute or funny in the least little bit. Boy's will be boy's just doesn't cut it. It's very hurtful. But apology accepted and again I know you didn't mean anything by it. Sorry I reacted so rudely to you.Hubby is a BIG flirt, he does not even know he is doing it. That is how he reeled me in without knowing it. He likes to joke around and stuff like that, but he just does it because he thinks it is funny, which he does not see it as flirting.
He is not bored! He is just a dumbass who does not know how to go to sleep at night. You would think if someone knew they had to be up and at work by 7am they would go to bed around 10 or 11 right? NOT my hubby. He would rather get 2 hours of sleep and take naps at break time than to go to sleep at a decent time the night before.
After he woke up completely, he said get dressed and we will go get your antibiotic. I told him no, that I die from my bladder infection, and that way he can marry my niece and be happy and stand there and watch her wash dishes.
She was suppose to come back over today, but she is bi-polar and ADHD, so more then likely she got too busy or found something else better to do then to come over.
Not making excuses for the guy, as he himself says he was born an ass, and I tend to believe it as, it might as well run in the gene pool in their family.
He's an ass, but I still love him. He is like a woman, he has his weeks of were I could swear he is PMSing. And then his lack of sleep makes him just a jackass.
He is not as bad as I make him out to be. I mean I could have gotten worse... like SIL hubby. Now he is one to kick to the curb!
Where's your self respect? I wouldnt put up with that. Period. Men (sorry Jay), need training, you attempt this through years and years and years of .... no not nagging, 'slap and praise'.
When me and hubby got together we sat down and told each other how we wanted to live our lives. I'm a clean freak and no-one can do it as good as me (in my house that is), I've sacked 5 cleaners!
Now training the 17 1/2 year old is proving a tad more difficult and he's way too tall to be slapped (just kidding, we dont do the hitting stuff in our family).
I know you shouldnt have to but men arent the same species as us, they dont think like we do. I always make sure I thank hubby for doing the hoovering or the bathroom or whatever he does because a) I'm genuinely touched he did it without me asking and b) because praise means he'll do it again.
This status quo hasnt come about over night its taken years of daily beatings
Dealing with men is like dealing with children you have to do a lot of reverse psychology. (A psychologist colleague of mine, male, told me that).
Oh he use to be worse. He has slowly changed over the years. At least he is doing the mannly things. He is a spoiled brat, he is use to his momma doing it for him and he never had to do anything as a kid when he was growing up. So, he is not that domesticated. It has took me 9 years to get him to where he is at now.
He is a good daddy, and works hard hardly ever miss work, unless I talk him into taking a day.
At least he doesn't carry around a flower bag. It sounds like he is doing fairly well considering his background. I can see now why he is struggling. Having everything done for you as a child does not prepare you for life well as an adult. That hubby is a good Daddy and a hard worker are good things.Yeah, I could not have a pink diaper bag when daughter was a baby, if I wanted hubby to lug it around or hold it for me. My mom bought me a primary color diaper bag so hubby would carry it around and help me out with the diaper bag.
Oh and after I told hubby If he wanted me to die from my bladder infection so he could marry my niece. My daughter piped up and said Yeah you are going to let mom die from her bladder infection, me to fail the 3rd grade, and me to lose my 2 best friends. She was upset that he would not let her go play with her friends, because she was not finished with her homework, which she asked him to help her with, but he was asleep on the couch and doozed off between problems. [QUOTE=joonie]
Oh he use to be worse. He has slowly changed over the years. At least he is doing the mannly things. He is a spoiled brat, he is use to his momma doing it for him and he never had to do anything as a kid when he was growing up. So, he is not that domesticated. It has took me 9 years to get him to where he is at now.
He is a good daddy, and works hard hardly ever miss work, unless I talk him into taking a day.
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